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Small Hearts With Big Hurts…How to Help Hurting Children


-How to help hurting children-

There are some phone calls that you never forget.  This night I received one of them.

The Phone Call


It was a late Wednesday night and we had all made it to bed.  I had just drifted off to sleep when I was awakened by the ringing of our phone.  Calls to a pastor this late at night are never good…and this one would be no different.  A man in our church with two teenage daughters had passed away of a heart attack…in the arms of his youngest daughter.  It was so sudden.  He had been working in our children’s ministry that evening.  I had talked to him after church.  Now here was a wife and two girls crumpled together in a hospital waiting room.  Their incredible grief, hurting hearts, and difficult questions with no easy answers.

Small Hearts With Big Hurts


 How do you help children and teens who are suffering through difficult loss?  Is their suffering any different?  I realize that the pain doesn’t get easier as you get older, but years of life do tend to give a little more perspective to pain and suffering.  A child doesn’t have that perspective to lean on, only pain that is raw and confusing.  As they walk through the pain of death or disease it may be overwhelming.

I remember when I heard that my grandfather had

If you know a child that is hurting, take the time to encourage them.  Here are 5 ways to be an encouragement to the little ones that are hurting.

5 Ways to Help Hurting Children

1. Don’t minimize their pain



Small people have small problems that can hurt in big ways.  Have you ever considered that the loss of a pet may be the first exposure to death that your child will have?  The pain of death for them is real, and the grief is real!  Don’t minimize your concern or care because you think their problem is small.  Small problems to small people seem really big!  Take their pain seriously.

2. Meet basic needs

One of best ways to show compassion during grief is to help meet the physical needs that arise.  In the days after the sudden death I spoke of earlier, many teens had met at their house to grieve and mourn with the family.  I remember when we heard a knock at the door…it was the pizza delivery man.  The next door neighbor had ordered pizza for all the teens that were there!  It was amazing how a little comfort food met a simple physical need and had an incredible effect on their mental and emotional state.

3. Be a good listener

James tells us to be slow to speak but swift to listen.  Be honest, you don’t have all the answers!  I don’t either!  Sometimes it is better to just sit with a hurting child and listen to their heart; let them tell you why they are hurting instead of you telling them how they should fix it.   Tell them you understand their pain, and be a compassionate listener as their heart cries.

4. Help them gain perspective

This must be done with incredible patience and discernment.  Lovingly help

5. Comfort them with Biblical truths

There is no better comfort than the Truths from Scripture.  Show them that…

  1. God can take our problems and work them for good  Genesis 50:20  But as for you, ye thought evil against me; but God meant it unto good, to bring to pass, as it is this day, to save much people alive.

  2. God cares about our needs  I Peter 5:7  Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.

  3. God comforts us when we are hurting  II Corinthians 1:3-4   Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort;  Who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble.

  4. God is always with us Hebrews 13:5-6  I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.  So that we may boldly say, The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do unto me.

  5. God’s grace is always sufficient II Corinthians 12:9  And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.


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Remember, it doesn’t take much for a little heart to have a big hurt.  Don’t minimize the pain of the little ones you are around.  Rather, take the time to comfort them with truths from God’s Word.

DJHarry                Isaiah 64:8                We are the clay!

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